I feel it. I’m stuck now. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to go. Everything is so hazy now. I feel very little control over my future. I should probably just do whatever others say instead. I’m sick of making my own decisions if I’ll fail every time.
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Hi, I know the feeling of being stuck. Making decisions can be very frustrating sometimes. Usually when I feel this way I take a moment to do something to ground myself just so I can think through the frustration. What something that you can do to distract you from your thoughts for a moment?
I can distract myself with videos and games and napping but those things are just that. Distractions. At the end of the day I’m in the same place I was and I fear I won’t be able to do anything to change that. Though I dislike it this may just be how my life is going to be from now on.
You are right about distractions to an extent I feel as they are not permanemt solutions. However, I would say that in the midst of doing some of the small things, like playing video games to care for yourself, you are able to refresh and rejuvinate your mind. And after when you are feeling ready to tackle the fear or the hard things you can have the opportunity to see things more clearly.
Personally, I have found that surrounding myself with others I see as mentors and admire how they handle difficult times and their life in general can be helpful for me. And I hear you about feeling scared as I think that is very natural and relate. Life changes can be very daunting.
~Toni, FKB Staff
The thing is, I just don’t know what to do. The distractions distract me but when I’m done with that I’m still not sure what I should be doing. I don’t have many people in my life I can turn to. I can’t trouble my partner with this and my parents are in their own families now and have nothing to do with me. My grandmother doesn’t show much emotion and won’t commit to just telling me what I should do. I have no friends offline.
I wish I had someone to make decisions for me.
I completely get you wanting someone else to be in charge of decisions for you. I certainly would choose that at times. I would steer yourself back towards your personal interests but also try to be gentle with yourself while figuring out your path. It does not happen all at once, which can be frustrating, but even without a direct answer you can still be making progress.
And we are happy to support you in any way we can through this platform.
Take care, Toni